I’m Happy For You, But What About Me?

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When my Daughter was born my Mom stayed with me for that first week. She taught me how to bathe a baby, diaper quickly, nurse efficiently, and overcome my fear of using that blue aspirator. My Mom cleaned, laundered, and cooked. She made sure I rested and empathized with my post-baby blues. On her last day, as she was leaving, I cried. I had no idea what I was going to do on my own. I didn’t know the first thing about babies and I had come to depend on her.

What if I fail or mess up?

She gave me a hug and said,

“You’ll be just fine.¬†Every new mom feels this way.”

She said I could call her whenever I needed to. I should also add that my Parents only live 20 minutes away. Now I had to be independent, and I was scared.

I’ve faced this same dread at work.

People come and people go. People I’ve come to depend on for their knowledge, expertise, and direction are moving on to new opportunities, and others are retiring. I’m happy for them, but I can’t help but feel like I’m left in the doorway holding a new baby.

There are projects that I’m not familiar with, each in a different phase requiring follow up and approval. The company is demanding activity, follow through, and results. When I had questions about the best way to approach a situation, or just needed a good laugh, these are the colleagues I went to. What if I fail or mess up? I’m starting to sink into post-resignation blues.

But just like my Mom said, I’ll be fine. People come and people go. Some bring more value than others. I’m lucky to have worked with those that bring value. I’m learning that I need to be confident in my skills and have faith in myself. If I mess up or fail, so be it. It certainly won’t be the first time and probably won’t be the last time. And even though having sudden independence thrust upon you can be scary, it can also be exciting.

How do you handle transition when valuable co-workers leave?


Marilyn Cox

Marilyn Cox is the Director of Marketing for Second City Works - the B2B division of the famed Second City.

You know the buzzwords; inbound, outbound, content, demand gen, lead gen, martech, social media, account-based, advocacy, customer success, sales enablement, and analytics.She studies it, plans it, executes it, experiments with it, and loves it.

Through discovery, creation, and innovation she's learned to say "Yes, And".Like business, her career is one big improvisational act.

She leads all aspects of the brand and culture, developing and executing a clearly defined, integrated marketing communications strategy.Marilyn is responsible for planning, organizing, staffing, training, and managing all marketing functions to achieve objectives of growth, awareness, customer success and making work better.

Marilyn exists to empower sales and support the customer. When not geeking out over marketing analytics, she can be found daydreaming about her unrealized dream as a professional wrestler with the WWE.
2 Responses to "I’m Happy For You, But What About Me?"
  1. steve@writingriffs.com' SteveKayser says:

    @marilynecox – Don’t worry. be happy.

  2. steve@writingriffs.com' SteveKayser says:

    @marilynecox – Don’t worry. be happy.

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