I collapsed on the bed after an exhausting weekend with the kids. It didn’t matter the activity, all they did was whine and complain the entire weekend. I remember after they were born I cried when it was time to return to work. This, on the other hand, was a day when I was giddy about Monday morning. As I laid in bed I played out the day’s events in my mind. When they were running through the house I asked them to quiet down. When they took out all their toys to make a campsite I scolded them for making a mess. As I reflected I felt bad about my behavior. I spent the better part of a weekend picking on my kids. The more I focused on their negative behavior, the more they acted out.
In turn, I spent the next two weeks at work tied to the whipping post. My temporary office became the private huddle room where my decisions were constantly called into question, my communication skills criticized, and my overall attitude dragged into the pit of despair. Just like my kids, I found that my mood at work became increasingly negative. It became me against the world and I didn’t care anymore.
Later in the week, when I returned home, I made it a point to tell my kids how great they are, how much I appreciate their good behavior, how smart they are, how much fun I have with them, and how much I love them. I vowed to work harder at focusing on their good behavior and redirect their bad behavior.
Knowing that positive reinforcement isn’t as easy to come by at work, the next Monday morning I made a concerted effort to refocus my efforts. I thought about all of the great things my job affords me and all of the awesome people I get to work with. I shifted my thinking from negative to positive and soon after my time in the temporary office decreased. I asked for suggestions on how to better communicate and accepted that not everyone views things the way I do. I’m still trying very hard to understand my decision making outcomes from others’ perspectives.
In the end I recognized that a positive attitude breeds positive thinking in others. While positive feedback can be hard to come by, you certainly have control over your own thinking and approach to situations. Perhaps people aren’t picking on you, but you’re picking on yourself.
How do you overcome negative attitudes?
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